30 Morning Rituals to Help Heal Your Broken Heart


You turn on the radio and most likely you will hear a song about someone cheating, someone breaking up with someone, or getting over someone.

The music industry makes massive amounts of money playing up to women and men who have broken hearts and all the reasons why.

Some of these songs will tell people to go out and find a new man, find a new woman, play the field, or even get revenge cutting their tires and smashing their windows.


Recovering from a broken heart requires giving yourself time. If you could be over your love in a day or two, it was not real love. If you are suffering from a broken heart, here are 30 morning rituals that can help you heal and move on.

But while these songs might make us feel better in the short term, it is temporary.

Recovering from a broken heart requires giving yourself time. If you could be over your love in a day or two, it was not real love.

You need to take the time to let yourself feel the emotions and not just brush them aside. Develop some rituals each morning to put you in the right mindset to heal.

I have a list of things you can do each morning to set yourself up for success and healing.

1. Start by going to bed early enough to get enough sleep.

Sleep is important, some people need 6 hours or 8 hours – make sure you plan to get what you need.

You want to ensure that you allow yourself enough time to wake rested. If you don’t get enough sleep, you are starting off on a bad note from the very beginning.

Sleep is important to your mental well-being, make time for it.

2. Set your alarm to wake up early.

You want to wake up with enough time to not be rushing out the door.

If you need an hour to get ready to leave the house, give yourself an hour and a half or two hours.

Nothing is going to make you feel worse about yourself if you are rushing through getting ready and feel like you can’t take time for yourself.

You are important, you are worth the time, show yourself that.


3. Give yourself permission to cry sometimes.

You cannot go through your day crying about your broken heart, but if you need a few min first thing in the morning to let those emotions out, do it.

Do not bottle things up, which will not help you move forward.

Feel them and let them pass naturally.

Over time, the need to cry will lessen but tell yourself “for the next ten minutes I am going to mourn this relationship than I am going to start my day.” Stick with this.

4. Stretch when you get out of bed.

You can do yoga or just basic stretching when you wake up.

This activity helps get your circulatory system going and wakes up your mind.

A focused mind first thing will help you focus on the positive in your life and moving forward.

5. Listen to uplifting music while getting ready to go.

We talked about a lot of the negative music that is out there surrounding broken hearts and breakups.

This music is not the music I am talking about here. You want to listen to music that speaks to your soul and fills you with joy.

Listen to music that makes you smile.

6. Buy hair cleaning supplies and soap that smell good to you and make you feel good.
Find a scent that when you smell it fills you with a sense of relation or takes you back to a happy memory.

There are so many body wash scents out there you can find one that will make you feel good.

I like the smell of lavender at night and sweet pea in the morning.

These smells relax me and smelling good makes me feel good, no one wants to smell bad.

7. Use hot water in your shower.

Warm water reduces tension in the body, so while a cold shower might wake you up faster, op for the hot water and take some extra time to soak in the warmth.

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8. Look at yourself and smile.

This suggestion may sound silly, but smiling is important. Smiling changes your demeanor and your thought process.

Smiling will help reduce stress, relax your mussels, and that in turn makes you feel happier.

Here is a great article that explains why you should smile to reduce stress.

9. Read affirmations.

One tip that happy, successful people suggest is to have affirmations posted around you.

You can tape them to your mirror and read them in the morning. Things like “I am a beautiful person,” “I will find true love,” “I am worth waiting for the right person.”

Find quotes that speak to your mind and heart and that make you feel good inside. Keep them close and read them often.

Start each day with positive affirmations about loving yourself.

10. Read quotations that hold meaning for you.

Find quotes that showcase your life goals, which make you feel good, or just make you smile when you read them.

Put them on fun paper and place around your room so you see them all morning while you are getting ready.

Read each one when you see and think about why it makes you happy.

Focus on the good not the negative in life each moment.

11. Be thankful.

Start by thinking of one thing you are thankful for each day, and over time increase that to five things each day for which you are thankful.

Write them down in a journal so that on really bad days you can look back and see all the things you have to be thankful for in your life.

12. Place photos of yourself which you like, around your room.

By placing photos of yourself in situations and looking in ways you like, you see you can be happy, and you were happy once before.

You see these and you know you can be happy again.

Remember times when you loved yourself and strived to find that happiness inside you again.

You don’t need someone else to be happy, and the relationship that just ended was not the key to your happiness, you are.

13. Place photos or pictures of things you want to do or places you want to go around your room.

Do you want to travel to the Caribbean, place a photo of the islands up, do you want to take up dancing, place pictures of dancing you like up.

Find hobbies you want to try and put up things to remind you of those. These will remind you that there is more to life than finding a relationship.

These will help you see that you can grow inside despite the broken heart.

A broken heart does not mean you will have a broken life, keep growing!


14. Eat.

Another thing that sounds simple and basic, but is very important. Make sure you eat something each morning to start your day.

Feeling hungry early on is going to make you cranky and increase your sad mood.

Even if you don’t feel like eating because of your broken heart, find food that will help boost your mood.

15. Pick out your clothes; don’t just grab what is clean.

They say clothes make the man; well they also make the woman. If you dress in ill-fitting clothes that are unflattering due to size, color, and style, you will not feel your best.

You want to dress for the person that you are inside. You want to feel confident and full of life, not dumpy and feeling sorry for yourself.

Sure, at night when you’re home and relaxing, a comfortable pair of yoga pants and baggy shirt is great, but going out, dress your best and show the world you are worth something.

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16. Pick out your perfect shoes to match your outfit.

You are not going to feel good about yourself or your situation if you are warring shoes that are uncomfortable.

Pick shoes that are stylish and comfortable, a great pair of boots will boost your confidence and help you through this difficult time.

17. Take time to do your makeup.

Even if you are not a girly-girly and do not like doing makeup, when healing from a broken heart, give it a shot.

Sometimes you need to break out of your comfort zone to heal.

There are lots of YouTube channels out there with demos and show you how to apply makeup in ways from subtle to dramatic.

Try new shades and new looks. It will give you a great confidence boost trying out a new look.

18. Meditate.

It doesn’t have to be for long, start with five minutes and gradually move up as long as you need.

Some ideas on what to meditate on are: what do you want out of a relationship?

What do you need to change about you to find happiness (sometimes we are our worst enemy and sabotage ourselves in relationships)?

Meditate on reminding yourself that you are worthy of love.


19. Play with a pet.

If you have a dog, cat, or anything else; take a few moments each morning to connect with that animal.

This pet is a creature you have chosen to live with, take time just to enjoy being with that pet.

Many studies have shown that petting animals will increase mood and overall wellbeing.

20. Stop and smell the roses.

You do not have to smell a bouquet of roses, though if you have them why not!

The point is to do something simple, smell flowers, admire a bird outside, look at a piece of art in your home.

Do something small to remind you of the good and beauty in the world, which just because you have a broken heart, it doesn’t mean you cannot still see the beauty in everyday life.

21. Read for pleasure.

Take five or ten minutes and read something you enjoy. It could be a book or magazine article, even an online article.

Just spend some time reading something for no other purpose than you enjoy it.

22. Make a to-do list for the day.

Start your list with “love yourself” or some other affirmation.

You want to set yourself up for success and not a day of wallowing in your broken heart misery.

Write as detailed of a to-do list as you need to stay focused and to move forward.

23. Sit and have a cup of coffee or tea.

Before rushing out the door take the time to enjoy a cup of coffee or tea and just relax.

Allow yourself the simple pleasure of enjoying a few quiet moments to yourself where you do nothing else but enjoy that one beverage alone.

Treasure you time alone because you someone worth being with, you don’t need people around all the time to validate your worth, you are worthy in and of yourself, give yourself to yourself.

24. If you don’t like drinking coffee or tea, take a short walk.

Before your shower and getting ready for the day, take a walk outside, breathe in the fresh air, feel the sun on your skin.

Being outside is therapeutic, getting sunlight is vitamin D, and that elevates your mood.

It also just gets you moving. When you sit and focus on being sad, you will be sad.

By getting out and moving, you are focusing on you and being active. It is time for you to be alone and enjoy being with yourself.


25. Take time to do your hair.

Taking care of your hair may seem like a no-brainer, but running a brush through your hair and saying your done is not the same as taking the time to style it.

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You are worth the time to make your hair look the way you want it. When you look in the mirror, you want to be able to say you are pleased with your look.

You want to show yourself you’re worth the time.

26. Work on your bucket list for life.

Add a new item to your list each day of something you want to do or try. It can be a new recipe you want to make it can be a new vacation spot or to try to learn to play guitar.

Just write down something you want, so you know you always have a reason to keep going even through a broken heart.

A broken heart doesn’t end life, and this list will keep you focused on going forward.

27. Make plans to go out with friends.

When you have a broken heart, you want to sit at home and just wait for it all to go away. That is ok for a couple days.

After that, you have to make an effort to go out again. You don’t have to go out every day, but maybe once a week make a plan to go out with friends even if just coffee or drinks. Keep your connections to the outside world alive.

28. Call or send a text to someone you love (not the ex).

Even if it is just a good morning text to your mother; make contact with another person that you care for in the morning.

This action of texting a loved one reinforces there are people that love you each day and that you are someone that can be loved.

29. Remember this is a phase.

Like all parts of life; this is just a phase you are going through right now. It is not the end of your life. You have so much more to give to yourself.

Tell yourself every time the heartbreak seems too much to bear, this is just a phase, and it too shall pass. You will have to tell yourself this a lot, but keep doing it.

You will be a stronger person for it all.

30. Tell yourself you love you.

Tell yourself that you love who you are. Remind yourself that you deserve love, and you will give yourself the respect you need to and love yourself.

A broken heart is painful, but it is not the end of all love. Start with loving yourself and you slowly start to see that other can love you, but if you don’t love yourself, no one else will see it.

Love yourself and you can heal a broken heart and find love again.

Healing a broken heart is never easy. If it was easy, chances are it never really was love.

To heal, start with one or two rituals and add in as many as you need so that you start your day off feeling your best.

Being confident and letting yourself heal your broken heart is key.

If you do not allow yourself to heal in your mind; if you hold on to the pain and do not try to move forward, you will not be able to.

You don’t have to jump right back out into the dating game; you don’t have to find your next love right away. You deserve the time to mourn what was lost and heal. You are worth taking the time to do that.